Zae Eildus said:
chillv said:
Zae Eildus said:
....so you simply cower down before someone elses opinion?
thats a very tragic life, friend.
Maybe I have a type of allodoxophobia (fear of opinions) and doxophobia (fear of expressing opinions)
but I also have a fear of disagreements and being called names and stuff (people may call you names because of the way you feel about things or your own understanding of things)... which there apparently is not phobia for. So basically, put all of these together and...
I am afraid to express opinions because I am afraid to hear other peoples opinions because I am sensitive to disagreements, arguments and debate most because of the way I act on them and what it usually leads to. So, I try to avoid voicing opinions at all costs. It does bother me to not be able to voice my honest opinions all the time every day, but I'd rather that than to recieve a counter-argument (which my body responds to in an unpleasant way) or being called names.
Also, on an additional note, my body makes the same response simply to hearing things I don't like and criticism, which I try to avoid too.
....i think you seriously need some sort of counsoling or something.
stuff like that will drive you crazy and you probably wont be able to even stand up for yourself because you're so afraid of whatever other feel.
You should be able to stand up to what you believe, if people dont like it, then thats their loss. It shouldn't affect you, because thats your view, your opinion, which what makes you human.
It's literally like you have given up on any human part of you just because of other peoples taste.
which is a very bad mentality.
Seriously this sucks, prayers to you buddy.
I know I already replied to this, but I want to add something too.
I don't think it is a good idea for me to do something if I know it will most likely lead to things that will hurt my feelings or make me feel uncomfortable.
I do understand what you mean though. However, I am not very comfortable with talking with someone about it in real life because I don't think it will lead to anything.
But I already know what I need to do to solve my problem. I need to learn how to be able to take criticism, debate, disagreements, arguments and counter-arguments and hearing things I don't like. In addition, I need to learn to not be afraid of expressing opinions.
The problem is the fact that this all arised from the internet. More specifically, here, BellTreeForums, Gamefaqs, YouTube and some other forum along with a few instances in real life.
You may wonder how has a handful of experiences on the internet affected me so much exactly. Well, if you don't know, the internet is pretty much my only avenue for socializing. I do know people I can speak to, but I am not able to just contact them often. Also, I never really had that much experience with any of the stuff I mentioned (disagreements, debate etc.) so being exposed to it now is kind of a new to me.
And considering that so many people disagree with me and just bad experiences consisting with several people on the internet period, I have flat-out said this last night...
"Apparently,
My opinions don't matter
Everyone is against me
Everything I know is wrong
and I have many abhorrent things about myself"
And you may wonder why do I feel this way about myself. Well, one time somebody said this
I'm pretty sure if this many people are saying this about you, it's probably true. You're just going to have to accept that.
So, whenever I want to acquaint myself with someone or even talk to them, I always worry about this along with some stuff I worry about them personality wise or future wise.
"What if I later discover something about them I don't like? What if our relationship worsens in the future? What if I later find that we don't have similar tastes? What if they later dislike me a part about me because of something I said or did?"
However, I am working on trying to get rid of all of these worries or fears.