
Make that 4.
I must have been.. 17, at the start of the decade. THAT IS WEIRD TO THINK ABOUT. Usually when I think "beginning of decade" I assume I must have been 10, but then I remember I'm 26 not 20.
Contrary, I personally view
my decade to have begun at 20y, 6 or 7 years ago.
But I'll start at,
17y-19y old: I was couch surfing at a rich friend-group's home in Florida. We had fun. We watched the live action Death Note in theater, we went to beaches and a gym together, and played basketball and mmo's. One was a DJ and we got to sit behind the scenes of her sessions. One had a fancy shmancy sports car we got to ride in. We ate a lot of ice-cream, practically lived on it.
At 19 I had to leave. I was technically living with my conservative grandpa who hated me, and he kicked me out of his house for having long hair and wearing basketball shorts, and taking his passive-aggressive sarcasm literally. He kicked me out 2 days before school started. I maybe could have lived with the friend group, but chose to go back to Mass instead, because I was honestly a little scared of the guy that owned the sports car, he had an inflated ego and had a hobby of making people upset on purpose.
20y-22y: I got my own apartment! Peace alas. It was here that I decided to work on my mental health, go to college, and explore my identity as an autistic closeted transfem. I joined a queer group, and it felt like the first time I had ever truly experienced kindness & understanding. At 22 I had to leave the apartment, my downstairs neighbor was a physically abusive drunk and I felt unsafe and every time I reported him the cops didn't help. Luckily a queer friend took me in,
Leading to,
23-24: Now living at a queer friend's parents house. I decided to come out to my family, it went well for the most part. Admittingly, 20-24 I was in culture shock, I dropped my own interests to explore the interests of my new friends. Again, a lot of fun. They introduced me to the leftist world: Undertale, Steven Universe, Star Trek, Doctor Who, Hamilton, Marvel, a bunch of queer music artists.
And to the weird of the world: B Movies, Musical Movies, Gravity Falls, Cryptids, Fairy lore, X-files.
They also introduced me to the concept of fandoms, which I hadn't the ability to grasp back then. But I did enjoy hearing all their headcanons & fanfics on Gravity Falls and Portal, etc.
We often played simply by doing improv fanfics & headcanons all day.
They also introduced me to witchcraft, sometimes we would take hikes in the woods and collect rocks, come back and do some magic/energy work with various objects and drawings and deities. It was a lot of fun.
25-26: I moved into a polyromantic group's home. They're my ex's now. But before the hard times were good times. We played a lot of DnD and Magic the Gathering. They also did witchcraft. I watched a lot of Marvel with them too. We went to scenic locations a lot, one example being a field of fireflies atop a mountain. At 26y, We moved to a big city together (sound familiar?), it was amazing, there were businesses of everything imaginable right in walking distance. I joined a Pokemon Go group, and bought Nintendo merchandise at a local hobby store that was like FYE but 2x bigger & 10x better. We had a lot of bubble tea dates.
At one point, my culture shock went away. I felt I had a grasp on my own life again. And decided to rejoin my interests.
And so I joined this very site, and found comfort here. Comfort I wasn't getting at home, because one of the members of the polyrelationship had a hate for me. Tension rose, and I broke up.
Now I'm back at my parents again, saving up for a 1br apartment. But I feel overall happier now. I have a stable sense of identity now. I finally feel like I get who I am ^ w ^.
Also, remember when I said I couldn't grasp fandoms? Ha-ha, being on this site, is my first time participating in a fandom! Crazy, right?